Love and Sex after 40: A Guide for Men and Women for their Mid and Later years
Butler
1986
Midlife Love Life: How to deal with the physical and emotional changes of midlife and their effect on your sex life
Butler
1987
Continuing our love theme this week…
I am 49. Yes, I said it. I am not dead, people. After looking at these two titles I am now depressed, since I guess I am on a downward spiral toward death. These books have some seriously good messages and discussions, but the “now you are old” title hurts the content (IMHO). Is it just me or has midlife been pushed back since the baby boomers are now in charge? Is 50 the new 40, or even 30? Ask me next year!
Mary
16 responses so far ↓
The Beautiful Kind // August 6, 2009 at 4:46 pm |
As a sexual surrogate worker, I recently learned a valuable lesson firsthand spending time with an older gentleman: USE IT OR LOSE IT!
wyogranny // August 6, 2009 at 5:54 pm |
gag!
jamisings // August 6, 2009 at 6:22 pm |
I never got the whole “too old for sex” thing. Too young, sure, but why shouldn’t people enjoy sex until the day they die? If you can get it up at 105 good for you! Go enjoy yourself.
Course then again, a lot of the older folks were raised in more sexually repressed environments. So I guess books like this are good for them in the sense it shows them that sex doesn’t have to just be for procreation.
Still, I think these two are a little old. Oh sure, you might get useful information out of them, but mid-80s? Frankly, they’d probably be better off with something even mid-90s. Just a wee bit more up to date.
Lisa Sue // August 6, 2009 at 8:06 pm |
It seems like any guide for an older woman’s sex life would contain at least some information about menopause. Thus, like most medical books, it seems like a good idea to have something younger than the woman in question’s children.
gothougeekly // August 6, 2009 at 8:50 pm |
My ex and I laughed for days over her mother telling her, at 40, “well, at least now you’re too old to have to worry about that whole sex thing.” My ex and I started worrying about it when we were in our mid-40s. Another thing her mom was wrong about, thank goodness.
Ginger Mayerson // August 7, 2009 at 2:45 am |
A woman never gets too old for good sex, but bad sex gets old very quickly after a certain age.
I’m 49, too. I see no reason to stop having sex, as along as it’s good sex, and nothing but good sex.
Gypsye // August 7, 2009 at 11:55 am |
I would suggest that “40″ may be a publishers way to market these books to an even older audience…. when I reach 60, being called “over 40″ might be classified as a compliment!
But more improtantly yes, the collection needs an updated resource. STD’s, birth control options… many things have changed in the DECADES since publication.
Cathy // August 7, 2009 at 12:34 pm |
Are there books for surviving sex after 20? Perhaps on how to get through the changes that occur in your sex life after college? Once all the partying ends there’s bound to be changes. Why should oldER folks have all the advice?
My parents are in their 60s and they have a better sex life than I do(don’t ask how I know that, I stumbled across this info by mistake…my mom really needs to stop leaving To Do lists around like that) This whole thing about how no one older than 40 has sex is just because kids like to pretend their parents stopped sleeping together after they were born.
Bart King // August 7, 2009 at 4:17 pm |
As my capacity for immature behavior has done nothing by increase over the years, I believe that 50 is the new 12.
Steph // September 7, 2009 at 10:56 am |
HA! Sounds like my husband.
jenmorrison // August 8, 2009 at 12:04 am |
I don’t even know where to go with this.
If I had known then what I know now, I might have waited until I was 40.
I don’t suppose that’s what book’s about?
Deja // August 8, 2009 at 8:51 pm |
Yeah, I think there needs to be a post-Viagra book on the shelf for this particular subject. Otherwise, what’s the majority of advice? Things take longer to work, folks, and don’t feel insulted if they don’t? (My partner is 20 years older than I am, so that advice does come from some life experience, kids.) But, now, watch out! Even Bob Dole can get a woody because Bob Dole needs a woody otherwise Bob Dole can’t %$^ like Bob Dole needs to every once in a while.
Anonymous // August 10, 2009 at 12:29 am |
I think books like this have been written by a woman who has not even hit 30 yet. I am 38 and it just keeps getting better. Silly and patronizing books.
“If I knew then what I know now”..Oh, boy!!
Maddy // August 13, 2009 at 3:17 pm |
Ooo dear. Newbie lurking from Mike Lynch. I wasn’t going to comment but this one was a sober surprise. I’m also 49 and I wasn’t aware that I have a problem but maybe I have. At least I don’t have bad hair. I’m sure this is why it’s always a bad idea to have an author photograph.
Cheers
FORTY SOMETHING // August 21, 2009 at 2:28 pm |
That you can find this in a LARGE PRINT EDITION is very amusing. Now where did I put my reading glasses?
Alex // November 12, 2009 at 5:54 am |
Let’s consider one thing: a book written in the 80’s which is titled “Love and Sex after 40″ now would be called “Love and Sex after 50″.